Buddhism offers me the ‘Middle Path’, but that doesn’t seem right! Presumptuously, would I be forgiven and still attain Nirvana if I were to cheat on my wife just a little, so long as I do not over do it? Buddha had no problem abandoning his princess wife and baby child in the middle of the night to look for enlightenment. What if his journey took him onto another path with a completely different outcome to what we know today?
The Qur’an seems to have a better solution to that dilemma, since it acknowledges that men are weak in the flesh. There are many verses that give lustful comfort to the spiritually struggling men, (as Allah’s favourite creatures on earth), by allowing them to marry more than one wife. In fact, there can be up to four wives for each Muslim man, whether their female companions like it or not, plus additional sexual partners taken from among their husband’s possessions, (female slaves). Surat An-Nisa, (The Women), has sufficient substance in it, suggesting that male sexual domination is an expected privilege!
Furthermore, in the Hadiths we find the following: Abu Sirma said to Abu Sa’id al Khadri: O Abu Sa’id, did you hear Allah’s Messenger mentioning al-‘azl? He said: Yes, and added: We went out with Allah’s Messenger on the expedition to the Bi’l-Mustaliq and took captive some excellent Arab women; and we desired them, for we were suffering from the absence of our wives, (but at the same time) we also desired ransom for them. So we decided to have sexual intercourse with them but by observing ‘azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid conception). But we said: We are doing an act whereas Allah’s Messenger is amongst us; why not ask him? So we asked Allah’s Messenger, and he said: It does not matter if you do (it, or) not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born. (Sahih Muslim, Book 008, Number 3371)
So while the men are discussing whether or not they should observe ‘azl while they are away, their wives at home must guard their chastity, as in the Qur’an, Sura 3:34 ‘So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard.’
How much harder is Jesus in His command to His followers on sexual lust and women when speaking about adultery, (sexual intercourse between a married person and a person other than the spouse). Jesus specifically teaches that God created a couple to become one in marriage as man and wife – three becomes adultery!
Jesus also spoke these words: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge (pull) it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
Jesus warns us that lust begins in the heart. He never shifted the guilt of sexual lust onto women, or suggested that women should completely cover their bodies, face, hands, feet and all, (even in the heat of Arabia)!
We are all capable of looking for a better way, yet we may struggle at times to stay on the right path on our own. Always remember that there is someone who could lead our way – we only need to ask and He will gladly be there for us. His name is Jesus!